I often get approached by people that follow me on Social Media sites and they say: “You are always so upbeat and positive.” “I love to read your posts.” “Your posts uplift me and give me inspiration.” “You are one of the most positive people I know.”
Although I’m totally flattered by these comments, I am as human as you are. I have a CHOICE each day. Am I going to inspire and connect with others, or am I going to wallow in self pity? Truth be told, I am all I think about. I have a huge ego, and it lies to me all the time. It tells me lies like: “You can’t, FILL IN THE BLANK.” “You are not, FILL IN THE BLANK.” It goes on and on with its lies.
I have learned via amazing teachers in my life that I get to have a life that is truly beyond my wildest dreams. These teachers have taught, and continue to teach, me how to get out of the ego. They have given me a handy utensil that I have added into my ‘LIFE’ tool box. This tool teaches me to reach out and inspire, to lift others up. It teaches me to pay attention to others, most especially when I just want to be left alone.
My Social Media Community is built on the 80/20 rule. 80% of the time, I reach out and comment, ask questions, like, share what others are doing. 80 % of the time I practice removing ego words on my posts: I, me, my, mine. I think, reword, and replace them with you, your, yours, etc.
Also, the teachers that have inspired me have taught me to follow, watch, and emulate people I admire and respect. Watch how they carry themselves. Observe how they speak to others. See how they post information. Witness how they live their lives.
“Fake it until you make it.” Have you ever heard this? It is true. There have been times in my life when I was in so much emotional pain that I really did not want to exist on this planet. The pain seemed unbearable. When I practice focusing on others, the pain slowly subsides and my life gets better. I practice not using these words: I am so busy, I wish I could FILL IN THE BLANK. I am in so much pain, why me, why now, why GOD? Great replacement phrases include I can, I will, I am strong, I am just like her/him and am capable of doing that, I feel great, I will reach out and connect with five to seven people today.
Sometimes I must fake the actions for longer than I want to. However, when I do this, I find that the pain, challenge, or dilemma I am facing always subsides. Then things do not seem so terrible, or in my mind “TRAGIC!”
I encourage your choice today to inspire another, to think STRONG, to take actions that will create a life that is beyond your wildest dreams!
Alaska Tracy ~ Inspiring Social Media Consultant. How may I help you today?